This thread is dedicated to my Mother and her recovery.
On Monday the 4th June 2007, while holidaying in the UK with my Father, my Mother was struck by a van while crossing the road.
Mum spent 88 days in various UK hospitals before finally being brought home back to Australia on the 30th August 2007.
She is currently in The John Whittle Nursing Facility with brain damage
I have set up this thread to keep you all updated on her condition and her improvements and hopefully one day, Mum will be able to read it.
On Monday the 4th June 2007, while holidaying in the UK with my Father, my Mother was struck by a van while crossing the road.
Mum spent 88 days in various UK hospitals before finally being brought home back to Australia on the 30th August 2007.
She is currently in The John Whittle Nursing Facility with brain damage
I have set up this thread to keep you all updated on her condition and her improvements and hopefully one day, Mum will be able to read it.
hi everyone.
we got home on saturday night and then i worked yesterday and now im also working today.
So, hopefully tomorrow, i'll have some pc time and will come in with news.
xx
we got home on saturday night and then i worked yesterday and now im also working today.
So, hopefully tomorrow, i'll have some pc time and will come in with news.
xx
When i came in here while i was at dads i told you all about how Mum was.
How i saw no improvements, how she looks worse.
I told you all what i was going to say to her.
Well, the next day i went up to Mum and Dad went to Bowls.
Now i stood in fron tof Mum and eventually got her eyes on me and i begged, pleaded for her to please poke her tongue out for me.
I cried and begged and bawled and pleaded for 10 minutes for her to please poke her tongue out at me.
I got nothing. Nothing at all.
So then i said this to her.
"Mum, I love you so much and im so proud of you and i know you have tried really hard to come back to us.
I want to tell you that we will be ok. Dad will be ok. We will look after dad. We will all be alright and we will think of you all the time and we will love you forever, but if the fight is getting to hard for you, if you have had enough, if you dont want to do this anymore...then its ok. Remember how Mandy told Pop that he could give up when he was dying of cancer....well thats what i am saying to you.
It will be hard for us but we will all manage"
She cried when i said this to her.
Why?? Why does she cry while im saying this but she wont poke her tongue out for me while im bawling and begging her?
Now i dont even think she could give up now even if she wanted to. She gets fed straight into her stomach and gets given meds if she gets sick. How can she die even if she wants to?
Some of you may not be able to deal with the fact that i basically have told my Mother to die. I understand. It wasnt easy for me.
But none of you know what i saw. None of you saw in her eyes.
Yes, i still believe she is in there, but i dont think she is fully in there. I think the pasrt of her brain that controls basic emotion (laugh and cry) is on, but not much else is.
I didnt take a photo of her this time. She looks to bad and thats why i didnt take my kids.
I dont know what else to say. I do know that i dont want to go back to Dubbo in 6 months+ and see her like this or worse.
My Dad asked me one night what i thought of Mum. He said "So, do you think your Mum has improved?"
I was scared to answer but in the end i said No.
He was silent so i said "What answer did you think i'd give?"
He said "I thought youd say no".
So he knows, he knows she hasnt improved. No matter how much he tried to convince himself she has...he knows she hasnt
How i saw no improvements, how she looks worse.
I told you all what i was going to say to her.
Well, the next day i went up to Mum and Dad went to Bowls.
Now i stood in fron tof Mum and eventually got her eyes on me and i begged, pleaded for her to please poke her tongue out for me.
I cried and begged and bawled and pleaded for 10 minutes for her to please poke her tongue out at me.
I got nothing. Nothing at all.
So then i said this to her.
"Mum, I love you so much and im so proud of you and i know you have tried really hard to come back to us.
I want to tell you that we will be ok. Dad will be ok. We will look after dad. We will all be alright and we will think of you all the time and we will love you forever, but if the fight is getting to hard for you, if you have had enough, if you dont want to do this anymore...then its ok. Remember how Mandy told Pop that he could give up when he was dying of cancer....well thats what i am saying to you.
It will be hard for us but we will all manage"
She cried when i said this to her.
Why?? Why does she cry while im saying this but she wont poke her tongue out for me while im bawling and begging her?
Now i dont even think she could give up now even if she wanted to. She gets fed straight into her stomach and gets given meds if she gets sick. How can she die even if she wants to?
Some of you may not be able to deal with the fact that i basically have told my Mother to die. I understand. It wasnt easy for me.
But none of you know what i saw. None of you saw in her eyes.
Yes, i still believe she is in there, but i dont think she is fully in there. I think the pasrt of her brain that controls basic emotion (laugh and cry) is on, but not much else is.
I didnt take a photo of her this time. She looks to bad and thats why i didnt take my kids.
I dont know what else to say. I do know that i dont want to go back to Dubbo in 6 months+ and see her like this or worse.
My Dad asked me one night what i thought of Mum. He said "So, do you think your Mum has improved?"
I was scared to answer but in the end i said No.
He was silent so i said "What answer did you think i'd give?"
He said "I thought youd say no".
So he knows, he knows she hasnt improved. No matter how much he tried to convince himself she has...he knows she hasnt
