Shamed into losing 45 kg

[the_bob_delusion]

http://www.news.com.au/lifestyle/health/nicole-whitehead-was-shamed-into-losing-weight-after-humilia...

On what should've been a carefree trip to a theme park with friends, Nicole felt so much shame that it spurred the obese young woman to change things for the better.

It took three staff members to help jam her oversized figure into a roller-coaster seat. She was so humiliated that she didn't go on any other rides that day.

Now aged 23 and happily married to husband Jay, she has overhauled her bad habits, especially her diet.

"I used to have a few rounds of white toast with full-fat butter for breakfast. Now it's still toast, but wholemeal bread with cereals as well," she says.

Nicole says she had no confidence as a bigger woman and hated shopping for clothes.

She also had to go to the emergency room twice because her mass affected her breathing, which led to panic attacks.

But now she says her confidence is restored ... and she's not afraid to visit a theme park.

"After what happened at the theme park, I was so proud to be able to go scuba diving. I now feel amazing compared to what I used to be like and I'm so pleased with the achievement," she says.

So what's the moral of the Story?

[the_bob_delusion]

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@nevillesdaughter wrote:

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@nevynreally wrote:

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@nevillesdaughter wrote:

Agreed, true shame comes from knowing we have done the wrong thing.

Marina.

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And some are too thick to realise they have done wrong. Bump shared a story and you dismissed it. And kept doing so. Consider the topic, then go get yourself some compassion/sympathy/social awareness.

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This comment was a response to lind9650, NOT Bump and was a general comment meant to indicate that if something has made us feel shame, we have to be aknowledging to ourselves that we have done/are doing something wrong. Nobody else can make us feel shame if we don't feel that we are in the wrong.

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When in a hole, stop digging. 

[*pepe]

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@nevillesdaughter wrote:

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@the_great_she_elephant wrote:

Hearing voices is a symptom of schitzophrenia, but there are many other forms of mental illness which do not involve 'voices.' Bump's nutter may simply have had anger management problems and a 'thing' about overweight women. Maybe he'd just been dumped or humiliated by an overweight girlfriend.

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No mentally balanced person assaults and abuses strangers in a shopping centre because their fat girlfriend dumped them, and anger management problems that cause you to assault strangers for ANY reason qualifies as a mental health issue.

I was just using "voices" to mean that he was obviously not in control - the alternative is that he is a sane person who thinks that is is reasonable behaviour... I am perfectly aware of the various mental health conditions. I didn't call him a nutter.

Marina.

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i totally disagree with this - not everything can be blamed on being mentally ill, anger is not a mental illness either.

sometimes people treat others like **bleep** when they themselves are having a **bleep**py day, sometimes people are just **bleep**holes - thats not a mental illness either, its a lifestyle choice

[cherry*135]

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@crikey*mate wrote:

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@am*3 wrote:

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@imastawka wrote:

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@nevillesdaughter wrote:

Have you got one with a glass of wine in his hand, or a strawberry daiquirie, or a mojito, or a champagne cocktail....

Marina.

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Have a few of these and all will be well.

(disclaimer: I am not encouraging anyone to become a hard drinker)

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did you know, that a disclaimer at the end of your message means nothing? For a chance that it may mean something, it has to be at the top/front/beginning of the content.

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I am so ashamed. My disclaimer on CS is not legit.

[cherry*135]

Two of Bob's pet hobby horses.. God and overweight people.

Sorry, you had to deal with that, Bump.

[cherry*135]

Must be the season for these type of news stories.

Bride loses 40 kilograms after seeing herself replicated as a 'fat little' wedding cake topper

"I didn't realise I'd let my weight get so bad and thought I would look back on my wedding photographs in shame."

http://www.news.com.au/lifestyle/health/bride-loses-40-kilograms-after-seeing-herself-replicated-as-...

[lind9650]

Marina, I was not talking about feeling ashamed. I was talking about selfconciousness.

Some big people are happy the way they are, some skinny people think they are to fat. We all know what we would like to look like, or what energy levels we would like, to do certain things. Nothing of that has to do with shame. It is just a matter of liking or changeing a lifestyle.

There are lots of different reasons why each of us is different in size, stature, health condition, financial position etc. etc. etc.

Judging other people is judging ourselves. If we want to be truthful, we have to see our own faults before we judge, belittle or try to shame someone else.

Dear Bump, I have no words for what happened to you to make things better. Some people are so wrapped up in their hate and anger, but to cowardly to face the truth about themselves, so they take it out on innocent people that can't defend themselves physically and retaliate with a punch in their big mouth. I hope you have put it behind you as one of the bad experiences in life and are living the way you like.

Erica

[joz*garage]

god this threads a mess

[i-once-was-bump]

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@joz*garage wrote:

god this threads a mess

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Are you talking to god or just cussing?

[imastawka]

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@am*3 wrote:

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@crikey*mate wrote:

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@am*3 wrote:

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@imastawka wrote:

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@nevillesdaughter wrote:

Have you got one with a glass of wine in his hand, or a strawberry daiquirie, or a mojito, or a champagne cocktail....

Marina.

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Have a few of these and all will be well.

(disclaimer: I am not encouraging anyone to become a hard drinker)

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did you know, that a disclaimer at the end of your message means nothing? For a chance that it may mean something, it has to be at the top/front/beginning of the content.

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I am so ashamed. My disclaimer on CS is not legit.

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Read back, crikey put her disclaimer on the end of her message   

Hey, crikey, is that when you start a letter with "without predjudice" ?

[imastawka]

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@joz*garage wrote:

god this threads a mess

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Amen to that