"We don't Owe our Parents anything"

[the_bob_delusion]

Discuss.

[katymatey*]

I agree with you, we don't owe our parents anything. Makes it sound like a debt, and what most of us give is freely given and without strings. Love.

[kopenhagen5]

Of course we don't. Our parents wouldn't want us to think we did.

BUT, we would give our parents everything. 

[boris1gary]

what about if you have borrowed money off them or their vacuum or their iron?

[lloydslights]

Things will get returned if they were borrowed with permission that had legal clauses attached.

On the other hand, "Sure you can borrow it, return it any time that suits you, honey" well, the return date is infinite

DEB

[lloydslights]

Generally, parents wouldn't expect a payment for raising their children.  

However, it is possible for parents to educate the young to look out for and respect the elderly from the early learning phase right through to when parents hit their Autumn/Winter years. 

Then it's quite possible that that instilled learning will come to the fore and the "child" realizes that they don't owe their parents anything as Bob-on-the-go suggests, but do the best they can for the Elder's comfort. 

DEB

[grandmoon]

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@lloydslights wrote:

Generally, parents wouldn't expect a payment for raising their children.  

However, it is possible for parents to educate the young to look out for and respect the elderly from the early learning phase right through to when parents hit their Autumn/Winter years. 

Then it's quite possible that that instilled learning will come to the fore and the "child" realizes that they don't owe their parents anything as Bob-on-the-go suggests, but do the best they can for the Elder's comfort. 

DEB

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My OH can from a communist country and his parents were very poor.  He felt that he should help them when ever possible and I agreed with him. 

But since his parents died his younger sister seems to think he should keep supporting her.

[lloydslights]

Customs of the past, interlapping with current day acceptances.  Is the sister still in her "home" country?

I have a relative who married into an Indian culture.  I have become aware of the elder son being responsible for the parents, but it is usually the wife of the elder son who does the "caring".  Adding to that the "arranged marriage"  scenario and it can become quite burdensome to a current-day highly educated female.

DEB

[crusader-rabbit48]

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@grandmoon wrote:

My OH can from a communist country and his parents were very poor.  He felt that he should help them when ever possible and I agreed with him. 

But since his parents died his younger sister seems to think he should keep supporting her.

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Younger sister sounds like she needs a reality check.

Get the local paper, give it as a gift.

Contains items like : Flats to Rent, Jobs, all she needs.

[grandmoon]

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@crusader-rabbit48 wrote:

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@grandmoon wrote:

My OH can from a communist country and his parents were very poor.  He felt that he should help them when ever possible and I agreed with him. 

But since his parents died his younger sister seems to think he should keep supporting her.

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Younger sister sounds like she needs a reality check.

Get the local paper, give it as a gift.

Contains items like : Flats to Rent, Jobs, all she needs.

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I am looking for a tee shirt with what part of the NO don't you understand.  

Her latest request is for him to buy her a 2 bedroom unit to live in.  She has been to no repeatedly but she is still asking.