any safe way to sell pickup paid by paypal?

[stick.it.good]

I sell some items where I allow pickup. And even if I say Cash on Pickup is preferred, obviously some buyers prefer paypal to use their balance or ebay coupons.

But I find it very frustrating that ebay allows pickup, but has no safety net if the buyer files a paypal claim.

I can ask for ID, but some people feel very uncomfortable handing this out, and especially letting me take a copy.

I can kindly say that without it, I cannot continue with the sale. But in real life, buyers can get frustrated and leave negative feedback. Plus, it's just not a nice purchasing experience for them, or me!

Has anyone found any way to keep themselves as a seller safe from potential scams without making the buyer feel like an untrustworthy scumbag? I want to have positive relations with buyers and not have to treat each of them like potential scammers.

[digital*ghost]

Just thought I'd add a couple of screenshots, as a window into how PayPal deal with certain types of cases.

Here's an excerpt of an email about a chargeback where I sent the items by registered post, and thus qualified for seller protection:

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And here's one where they were sent without tracking  / proof of post at all (which I chose to fight rather than accept liability - yes, I knew the fee more than doubled my loss if the case went in the buyer's favour, which it was 2 weeks later) :

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[letscleanupmycupboards]

What about when they pay with PayPal but live interstate and want to get a family member or friend to pick up? I had a buy it now with best offer and I specified when making the counter offer that if having collected by someone else cash on pickup was it but they’ve PayPal paid it so I’m now getting reminders to post it even though it says local pickup only.

Any ideas?

[stick.it.good]

Going by all the replies in here. I think your best bet is to get as much information and identity as you can about the buyer and then cross your fingers.

If anything does happen, use the info you have to open a case with ACORN and let PayPal know that you're doing that