Who Should Pay

[grandmoon]

Granddaughter's Ex want their son to go to the most expensive Catholic College in the area. He said as he is paying child support she should pay the school fees. She has offered to sent the boy to the local Catholic school and they both pay half of the fees. But if he wants the boy to go to the college he should pay all expenses over and above those of the public school. The Ex didn't go to a private school, he went to the local public school as did the Mother.

[imastawka]

Yeah  or cajoled,  you forgot cajoled into it.

None of this mediation stuff.   Flat out - nope

[boris1gary]

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@imastawka wrote:

Yeah  or cajoled,  you forgot cajoled into it.

None of this mediation stuff.   Flat out - nope

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haha cajoled, that didn't enter my head because as soon as I thought about it, my cranky pants were on.

[azureline**]

I am obviously alone with my line of thinking...................... I think the parents need to address the reason the dad wants to send his child to that school. If it is the best place for the child, both parents should pay.

[softail-joanie]

Granddaughter's Ex want their son to go to the most expensive Catholic College in the area.

What does the son want?

 He said as he is paying child support she should pay the school fees.

Does the amount of what he does pay cover the child's support, with enough left over to cover this school he wants to send their son to?

She has offered to sent the boy to the local Catholic school and they both pay half of the fees.

Again, what does the boy want? You say college, I'm assuming he is of age to decide for himself.

But if he wants the boy to go to the college he should pay all expenses over and above those of the public school.

I'd say if the student in question wants to go to a certain school bad enough, he should take what the mother, and father are willing to pay, whatever that might be, and pay the remaining costs himself. If he can't do that, well, it falls back on a quote by the Rolling Stones "You can't always get what you want"

[azureline**]

College here can mean as young as 5 yo.

[bushies.girl]

Personally, I wouldn't have my children in or around ANY Catholic school, far too risky

[siggie-reported-by-alarmists]

The child should be kept out of adult decisions. He should not even be aware the parents are discussing this.

The father needs to be educated on what child support payments are for......

[azureline**]

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@siggie-reported-by-alarmists wrote:

The child should be kept out of adult decisions. He should not even be aware the parents are discussing this.

The father needs to be educated on what child support payments are for......

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I agree......

however, which school would they have sent him to if they were still together?

[cherry*135]

IF they were still together they would have one household, one household's expenses (possibly a 2 income household).

Does the mother have enough income to pay 1/2 of private school fees? That is the crux of the matter, whether she agrees to child going to private school or not...if it would be impossible or a financial burden on her, why should the father impose that on her?

Or if she simply believes public education is just as good as private, then she shouldn't be forced into changing her view on that.

[siggie-reported-by-alarmists]

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@azureline** wrote:

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@siggie-reported-by-alarmists wrote:

The child should be kept out of adult decisions. He should not even be aware the parents are discussing this.

The father needs to be educated on what child support payments are for......

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I agree......

however, which school would they have sent him to if they were still together?

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 They.... are not together.....completely irrelevant.