Being judged, repeat, repeat

[buyingandsellingmandy]

Hi

I was a newcomer to this site and I came for help. Some of you were very respectful, helpful, investigated a few things for me.

But, there were alot of people that were critical of me in so many different ways.

I had come to this site for help, that's all I wanted, help to prove I had paid for an item.

Some of you were down right mean.

More than not, alot of people were very critical over and over again. If I made a mistake, then I got criticised for that. I want all of you to read all my responses to my very first question on this sight.

If a person comes to this site for help, be respectful from the very beginning. They need yr help, not anything else.

One person i nearly reported.

I was constantly being bombarded about anything I had to say, in the end, that wasn't the help I needed. I don't know how old some of these people were, but to me, it's not funny when u need help to be criticised all the time.

If I had not won my case, I would of left ebay for another site. To the person who was so rude from day one, you need a lesson in how to talk to females. Coz yr really bad at it.

For a person to have this sort of experience, very first time, your getting a bad reputation.

I showed alot of people your responses, friends of mine, people in the street, random people I didn't know, just wanted to see what other people I didn't know thought.

Only the people that were helpful got a mention. Others that were critical, well, your site is getting a bad reputation, because of you're responses.

You can say, now I'm being critical, yes I am, coz if I don't tell you, someone else will eventually.

I think age might have something to do with it. Some of you sound like teenagers.

A little respect goes a long way in this life.

Most people I spoke to said, I'm never going on there to get help. I said, are you sure u wouldn't if u were desperate like I was for people's help? Response, not in a million years was a common answer.

All I asked of each person was, can u read this, tell me what u think, nothing more.

How many people did I ask? All the people that live in my court, parents, teenagers alike, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19. Then I went to my town shops, I know most shop owners, local people. Same reaction.

If this makes u all angry, well, it hasn't sunk in yet, the reality of it all.

To those that helped me, a big thank you, it was very rare, but, I did notice you.

[gutterpunkz05]

For the  OP,   As this matter is still affecting you after such a period of time, you really need to learn how to live.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SJUhlRoBL8M

[imastawka]

I'd like to point out that the OP hasn't read any of these replies.

They posted the OP and have not returned.

Probably just to vent.

[papermoon.lady]

She "might" have read without being logged in, but decided not to reply (or to log in to reply).

[*sons_and_daughters*]

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Reply: Welcome back old friend! 🌴🌴🌴 🍸

You're mistaken. I didn't mean that. I mean, I never said that! When I said . . . .  . . . .  "Sadly though there are some things that you don't see due to being elswhere",  I was referring to the fact that springyzone isn't always in the forum. There are posts she doesn't get to see. She has a life obviously and even though one of our regulars, she would miss a few that I have seen.  I have a great amount of respect for her as she is very even minded, educated and intelligent. She's helpful and she should be regarded a role model to some other folks here. Even chameleon54 the other day commented on her being very well-balanced. Sometimes though, on certain issues, we disagree. That's just the way it is.

Oh and I didn't say "keyboard warriors" . They wouldn't be that ... even.

Quote: " Are you saying she's a nutter because she's "elsewhere"? " , how can this be? Being in another forum and not getting a chance to go though every post or thread doesn't make her a nutter! It just makes her being in one place but not another.

Quote: " I would listen to Springyzone's advice before yours. At least she has a grip on real life." Hey, you might have a point there. If we were to write out a list of helpful things, tips and hints on life and political things etc., I'd say springyzone may  would have  a few more than me. I in fact may "listen to Springyzone's advice before " my own in some circumstances.

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Enough with the "old". I'm 27 years old (28 next January. The 4th if you really want to know for certain), so in my opinion, far from being old. If I am old at 27, you must be pretty much dead at your age. 

I stand by my statement. I will take notice of Springyzone before I take notice of your bullying posts.

PS: I'm not your friend. I don't have friends in this forum. I respect the other members, but they aren't my friend. You are certainly not. Far from it. You may think yourself being pretty cool by reposting large amounts of text that others have posted, that is meaningless, or highlighting certain letters in your posts, but it doesn't blow my skirt up. I personally find that to be extremely childish and petty.

Happy day to you. Go get a 5G in your covid vax and do us all a favour.

[sugar249]

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@*sons_and_daughters* wrote:

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Enough with the "old". I'm 27 years old (28 next January. The 4th if you really want to know for certain), so in my opinion, far from being old. If I am old at 27, you must be pretty much dead at your age. 

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Just in case I forget happy birthday for next year

[veiled-lady]

That's a birthday I will be unlikely to forget.

It's also my father's birthday - the main difference being that he will turn 98 next year.  😁

So you were born on his 70th birthday.

So, I will agree with you, 27 isn't quite ancient yet.    Can I call you my very young not at all friend? 😆

[4channel]

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@*sons_and_daughters* wrote:Enough with the "old". I'm 27 years old (28 next January. The 4th if you really want to know for certain), so in my opinion, far from being old. If I am old at 27, you must be pretty much dead at your age. 

I stand by my statement. I will take notice of Springyzone before I take notice of your bullying posts.

PS: I'm not your friend. I don't have friends in this forum. I respect the other members, but they aren't my friend. You are certainly not. Far from it. You may think yourself being pretty cool by reposting large amounts of text that others have posted, that is meaningless, or highlighting certain letters in your posts, but it doesn't blow my skirt up. I personally find that to be extremely childish and petty.

Happy day to you. Go get a 5G in your covid vax and do us all a favour.

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4channel writes, LOL you haven't changed. You've still got that same pizazz. *WINK*  Ayway, I have to respectfully disagree what you say.

Now, I came on this thread as I do feel that this OP buyingandsellingmandy had a point. She was quite upset and to be truthful, I saw validity in what she said. She's just a small seller trying to make a go of things. As a buyer she struck a very difficult situation. Whether she followed advice or didn't I think is immaterial.

I've gone back and had a bit of a breeze through on the posts from the original thread. What I can see is someone who is quite possibly a good natured individual who at worst may not handle some difficult and frustrating situations that well. Perhaps in time she'll cope better. I take note of the advice that springyzone gave her. No surprise there. It was evenly presented and well thought out.

You might be right about me being childish and petty. A former girlfriend said I was when I got jealous over some other guy who kept on giving her the eye. I wanted to grab him by the scruff of the neck.

[springyzone]

You've said a lot of kind things about me, 4channel, but the thing is, I am not the most knowledgeable person on the forum by any stretch.
There are others on here who are professional sellers so they are going to have a lot of facts at their fingertips.

I haven't sold in years.

I do think at some stage Mandy may come back to read replies. It's not a given. She was obviously very rattled last year by her entry onto the board and may elect to avoid reading any replies. Perhaps it was a quick foray in just to say her piece.

Then again, she may at least read, even if she doesn't log in as such.

If so, I think the main thing to take from this forum is that most questions will be answered. So look for the practical nuggets of advice even if they are couched sometimes in a blunt or abrupt way. 

[4channel]

Well there may be some folk that know a bit more about the complex workings of eBay and a bit more here and there due to the knowledge that comes with selling.  I've seen you deal with some folks and having to come back and re-explain things or extend more on what you've said to further clarify due to a lack of perception ability of the person with the issue.

I've had discussions with you myself where we have different views, even where we're at polar opposites on what may be a solution to a world-wide problem. I've never seen you be discourteous to anyone. You've always maintained that degree of fairness and courtesy. And if you've ever gotten angry or frustrated with someone due to them being silly, I've never seen that displayed in your posts anywhere. Good eBay member and contributor, chameleon54 noted your being well-balanced on a recent thread in Community Spirit. I think that your approach to helping others in the Buying forum could be looked at as a very good example of doing things right!

[*sons_and_daughters*]

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@4channel wrote:

Well there may be some folk that know a bit more about the complex workings of eBay and a bit more here and there due to the knowledge that comes with selling.  I've seen you deal with some folks and having to come back and re-explain things or extend more on what you've said to further clarify due to a lack of perception ability of the person with the issue.

I've had discussions with you myself where we have different views, even where we're at polar opposites on what may be a solution to a world-wide problem. I've never seen you be discourteous to anyone. You've always maintained that degree of fairness and courtesy. And if you've ever gotten angry or frustrated with someone due to them being silly, I've never seen that displayed in your posts anywhere. Good eBay member and contributor, chameleon54 noted your being well-balanced on a recent thread in Community Spirit. I think that your approach to helping others in the Buying forum could be looked at as a very good example of doing things right!

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I agree with what you said about Springyzone. I really enjoy reading her replies to people. Very thorough and very down to earth.  I have to ask though, what is Community Spirit?